I had my first client complete suicide recently. It sent shock waves of pain and guilt through me. Thoughts such as ‘I had no idea’ (which I didn’t), ‘he was such a great guy’ and ‘could I have done something more or different’, circled in my brain. It gave me a small glimpse into what
The Slippery Slope of Infidelity
I’ve written in past about the slippery slope of technology. Now I’m onto another slippery slope…infidelity. They’re actually somewhat related because sometimes one is used to lead to the other. But that’s not always the case. Affairs often happen with those you don’t expect it to: a close friend, a co-worker, the mom or dad
Mountain or Mole Hill, Talking To A Therapist Can Help
Often, when people come to see me, they almost apologize for attending a session and taking my time. They say things like “there are so many people who have problems worse than mine.” I’m not sure why people do this. Sometimes they may be trying to minimize their issues and other times they may have had life
Parenting 101… Unconditional Love
I think that one of the most difficult roles we’ll ever have in this life is that of parent. We start out with hopes and dreams for our little ones that include all of the blessings this life can bring. However for some parents that all changes when the ‘Einstein’ that they gave birth to
The Dark Days of Winter
It’s been a long winter and recently I’ve begun to become concerned for my clients. Why, you might ask. Because the long dark days of winter can lead to feeling down and depressed. Sometimes it’s hard to see past the snow drifts. We loose hope that the sun will shine bright again and the snow
Technology’s Slipery Slope Into Addiction
Today I met with yet another person who had their lives shattered via a technological addiction. It begins with a simple text, a search on Facebook or a peak on a tempting website. Everything and anything is so easily accessible to us with the mere tap of the finger. Now don’t get me wrong. There’s
Choosing How We Live
I’ve just finished sitting with a gentleman who lost his partner of over 25 years. She’d been sick for the past five months or so, and last night she took her last breath. His pain was palatable and his regrets strong. Being the stoic and strong type, he was surprised at the depth of his
Be Kind to Yourself
I went to the mental health unit (some would call it the psych ward) at our local hospital to see a client today. It’s the first time I ever done that. Some would say it’s a blurring of boundaries to do so. I decided I didn’t care because this woman needed to know she has
Do I want to Separate or Divorce?
So, you’ve been together for a few years (maybe many years), and things have changed. You’ve changed; they’ve changed. You’re wondering if it might be time for a separation or even divorce. There are a few things to think through before you ‘pull the plug’. I think that all long term relationships deserve a chance,
Depression… let’s deal with it!
DEPRESSION!! What a scary word and an even scarier time if you’ve ever gone through it. There are different types of depression, such as depression brought on by a life change (situational depression), depression that can occur after the birth of a child (post-partum depression) or even depression that occurs from low levels of light